The Dictionary of Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse and its main cause Narcissistic Personality Disorder are the most painful learning processes in a lifetime. One devotes decades in disgrace and silence, taking the guilt, hating oneself, hiding away and step by step sliding into various emotional states to endure the daily punishments from someone who enjoys great pleasure in causing them.
The darkest part of the narcissistic abuse is that victims most probably devote years not realizing what is going on, unconscious that their abuser has cruelly and intentionally generated a world to insulate, demoralize, and dehumanize their sufferers to better nourish and supply their personality disorder. A dictionary of narcissistic abuse including definitions of the terms and behavior surrounding NPD would save victims currently suffering and make them increase their knowledge necessary to better evaluate their state, and then ready themselves for escape and ultimately healing.
A mental defense mechanism where a person projects their own adverse opinions, feelings, or actions onto someone else in order to pursue release from their own morality. For example: condemning the victim of cheating when the indicter is actually the one who is cheating.
A favored and the most used weapon of Narcissists; a passive-aggressive method of emotional abuse in which anger, disapproval, and contempt showed through nonverbal gestures, such as glaring, even though preserving verbal silence.
A manipulation method including excessive demonstrations and continuous bombardments of care and love in an effort to gain control by moving the relationship forward rapidly.
A narcissist’s limitless necessity to gain the care and love of others for the purpose of building them up and approving their false sense of supremacy and entitlement.
The silent, elusive, underground currents of mistreatment that occasionally go unseen even by the victims themselves up until it is too late; the nurturing and enhancement of an atmosphere of bullying, fear, and instability; frequently regarded as the most hazardous type of abuse.
A method of mental abuse that comprises brainwashing or convincing a emotionally healthy person that their perception of reality is false, making victims hesitate their own memory, perception, and sanity; the word is from the 1944 movie “Gaslight,” in which the narcissist used this technique on the victim.
A planned and destructive act of manipulating a person into a more needy and isolated situation by asking for a special connection where they are more helpless to tolerating future abusive conduct.
An extremely subtle and empathetic individual who senses and often takes on the emotions of others frequently at the cost of their own emotional well-being.
A person who consistently and instinctively lies in order to suit their own desires.
Named after the Hoover vacuum, this is a method used to suck back in the target by showing improved or appropriate behavior.
A method used to pacify a person to inappropriate or abusive behaviors; influencing an individual to agree or accept something that is in conflict with the law, social norms, or their own morality.
Small and short-term renewals of the love bombing stage.
Denying one’s actions even in the face of physical evidence.
Bait & Switch
Persuading the victim in with gentleness and affection and once they are hooked the abuser changes to being demanding, careless, and cruel.